Nine mistakes when flirting (or dating) girls

Too much talking (mainly about yourself) – You´ll want to focus about 70% of the conversation on her. She feels that a man listening to and understanding her will be a good lover. If you brag on she´ll probably nod and smile, but she´ll be thinking about how boring you are, and how you cannot impossibly give her good loving. Look at the talk show hosts and how they ask questions and get everyone laughing.

Trying too hard to impress – Don’t buy her flowers or gifts. Imagine a car salesman coming at you with his sales pitch. You´ll want to step back and see what he is selling you. It’s the same thing with a girl. Any man that tries to buy her affections demonstrates low self confidence and low self discipline.

Drinking too much (and maybe talking to much) – A few drinks are okay, but more than that and it will affect your judgment. It’s tempting to have a few drinks and loosen up but flirting is hard enough sober, why make it any more difficult?

Selling the next meeting or date too early – Don´t ask her out, you´ll want to increase the mystery about your next meeting. End the meeting in a good way and tell her nothing. Say “I had a great time” and then leave. The next few days you’ll leave her wondering if or when you are going to call and ask her out again. What she doesn´t know will help you.

Too fast moving – slow down, relax, take it easy… many guys think that they can either hurry a girl, or get on to the next one to get a score. I´ll tell you a joke here… Two bulls are standing on a hilltop overlooking a herd of cows. One bull says: “Lets run down there and have a couple of that ladies” The other bull smiles and says, “Lets walk down and have them all!”

Too slow moving – You´ll have to state your romantic intentions at some point otherwise she’ll loose attraction, since you are not showing self confidence. The longer you wait, the worse it gets. Always move forward toward your next romantic goal with her.

Not being relaxed enough – if you aren´t relaxed you might start looking desperate. Start relaxing already some time before the meeting. It might help for you to work-out or exercise some kind of breath control, where you get the heartbeat a little down. After doing some hard training, endorphins will come out into your bloodstream and you´ll feel more relaxed.

Being clingy – You´ll want to make her feel good and happy, but the get-together is not only about her. Back off enough to let her breathe. Make a break now and then by talking with someone nearby, or let a comfortable pause enter the conversation. If you are smiling and looking secure with yourself, everything will be fine.

Going too long having a good time – You know the thing with football players and other top athletes… they want to stop while they are still on the top and so should you. Don’t drag out the date.